Every young woman grows up thinking about, planning, and longing for the day that she will be looked upon as, and feel like, a princess at her dream wedding. Part of this dream is due largely to the Disney movie princesses that they grew up watching. The rest, as every man should know, is because on your wedding day, the most important day of your young lives, your bride should absolutely feel this way – like a Fairy Tale Princess.
Choosing a wedding venue can be an overwhelming and nerve-wracking experience. This is how it should be. Don’t fret. Bask in the stress you are feeling and turn it into positive energy. Remember that you and your fiance are in it together. Support each other and be open to concerns and wishes. This can only add to the experience as well as the decision-making process.
How Soon is Too Soon To Pick A Wedding Venue?
Answer: It is never too soon. If you are planning on having a long engagement try to pick the venue right away. Other couples who have been engaged longer may take the date that you want to act soon. Set the date a year or a year and a half away. Just having the deposit set for the date that you choose will be a burden off of your back and you can focus on planning without stressing about where you’ll be married.
The internet is your friend in terms of venues. It is nearly impossible to visit all of them in person. With an extensive list at your fingertips, it is easy to whittle it down to the handful that you both love that you can visit. Most websites should have an idea of the pricing available to you. If it is exorbitantly out of your range, don’t bother. If it is slightly higher, they can work with you depending on when you choose to be wed.
Picking A Venue: Minimizing Cold Feet Through Compromise
While some wedding dates take place mere months after the engagement, others are a year to upwards of two years removed from the proposal date. That is a long time into the future to plan where you want to be on your big day. It is hard to picture for anyone, especially if you visit your venues in a different season than the wedding will take place in.
In trying to choose, there are several things to be concerned with, namely price and value. As you make your rounds to see several venues (anywhere from three to six is more than sufficient) always ask yourself, and the person hosting your first visit, what you are getting for the price that is different than the previous venue no matter if it is higher or lower. While some venues may charge more per person, you may get less food or amenities, and vice versa.
Some of the charges that you incur may be based on the time of year that you choose. May and June, and September and October are peak times for wedding season. The rates tend to be significantly yet reasonably higher across the board. Other charges may be the amount of wait staff on hand for your event. While it may cost more, it also provides for more attention to be paid to your guests and gives you a way to avoid unnecessary headaches the night of the wedding.
Also, decide before you step foot into any venue if you are going to hold the ceremony there or at another venue like a church and return afterward for the reception. This will lower the price of the venue by a bit but it does put your guests in a position of waiting for the wedding and the party. This is something to consider if you have family and friends who travel long distances to your event as they may not have anywhere to go in between.
(Note: The venue that does not include an open bar is a sign that you should run the other way. The cost will outweigh any benefit that may arise.)
The Color And The Shape: Focusing On The Seemingly Minor Details
It may seem over-the-top, but it helps to come up with a preliminary idea of color schemes and a theme, if any, that you want. (They may seem minor so far in advance but that is a misnomer, they are utterly necessary.) This includes tuxedos for the groomsman and dresses for the bride’s maids. Guys, take some chances with this one. While we all aren’t fashion experts, throwing out color ideas can only enhance the thought process of your fiance. It will open a world of possibilities. The pictures you take will be with you for a lifetime so make it count.
When you enter venues, if your color scheme, theme, or a general idea for seating arrangements won’t fit the room it may mean changing them or walking out. This is for you to decide. Is the place that much better than what you envisioned aesthetically?
Now, the greater majority of the details should be picked by the princess bride but, gentlemen, make sure you speak up. This is the day she has been dreaming of and you are the man of that dream. It is okay to have a voice. Do not harp on the things that you do not like though. Bring up the beautiful and enchanting details that you liked, i.e. the dance floor, the all-inclusive sushi bar, the layout, the placement of the bar, et al.
When it comes time to discuss the parts you loathed or simply disliked be open and honest even if she loved them. It may lead to heated debate, but it can also lead to a great compromise. Make a mental checklist of all of the pluses that you both have. It is doubtful that any venue will have a one hundred percent success rate for either, or both, of you. If you are unsure if it is the right place, just look into your bride-to-be’s eyes and you will have your answer.